Dr. Joy on Fantasies
"Look, I know you think fantasies are fun, sexy, and
cool, whether your dream is of Cinderella or Prince Charming,
or that your love will be passionate, available, rich,
gorgeous, and lovable. Everybody indulges in fantasies from
time to time, but as a lifestyle choice, we're talking
dis-as-ter! Even if these seemingly harmless little devils
don't ruin your life, they can cause a lot of avoidable
misery. . . . Fantasies are a distraction from the business
of running our lives successfully and realistically. I plan
to wrestle these pesky critters to the ground so we can all
get on with the pleasure of focused thoughts and
energy."
Dr. Joy on Realities
"We've become so used to the idea that the real world is
dangerous that reality has gotten a really bad reputation.
I'm going to show you that reality is a lot less scary than
you've been led to believe, and that it is actually
potentially helpful, healthy, life-affirming, and the most
useful game in town."